Multi-task learning (MTL) has been successfully used in many real-world applications, which aims to simultaneously solve multiple tasks with a single model. The general idea of multi-task learning is designing kinds of global parameter sharing mechanism and task-specific feature extractor to improve the performance of all tasks. However, challenge still remains in balancing the trade-off of various tasks since model performance is sensitive to the relationships between them. Less correlated or even conflict tasks will deteriorate the performance by introducing unhelpful or negative information. Therefore, it is important to efficiently exploit and learn fine-grained feature representation corresponding to each task. In this paper, we propose an Adaptive Pattern Extraction Multi-task (APEM) framework, which is adaptive and flexible for large-scale industrial application. APEM is able to fully utilize the feature information by learning the interactions between the input feature fields and extracted corresponding tasks-specific information. We first introduce a DeepAuto Group Transformer module to automatically and efficiently enhance the feature expressivity with a modified set attention mechanism and a Squeeze-and-Excitation operation. Second, explicit Pattern Selector is introduced to further enable selectively feature representation learning by adaptive task-indicator vectors. Empirical evaluations show that APEM outperforms the state-of-the-art MTL methods on public and real-world financial services datasets. More importantly, we explore the online performance of APEM in a real industrial-level recommendation scenario.