Cryo-electron microscopy (cryo-EM) emerges as a pivotal technology for determining the architecture of cells, viruses, and protein assemblies at near-atomic resolution. Traditional particle picking, a key step in cryo-EM, struggles with manual effort and automated methods' sensitivity to low signal-to-noise ratio (SNR) and varied particle orientations. Furthermore, existing neural network (NN)-based approaches often require extensive labeled datasets, limiting their practicality. To overcome these obstacles, we introduce cryoMAE, a novel approach based on few-shot learning that harnesses the capabilities of Masked Autoencoders (MAE) to enable efficient selection of single particles in cryo-EM images. Contrary to conventional NN-based techniques, cryoMAE requires only a minimal set of positive particle images for training yet demonstrates high performance in particle detection. Furthermore, the implementation of a self-cross similarity loss ensures distinct features for particle and background regions, thereby enhancing the discrimination capability of cryoMAE. Experiments on large-scale cryo-EM datasets show that cryoMAE outperforms existing state-of-the-art (SOTA) methods, improving 3D reconstruction resolution by up to 22.4%.