Iterative machine learning algorithms used to power recommender systems often change people's preferences by trying to learn them. Further a recommender can better predict what a user will do by making its users more predictable. Some preference changes on the part of the user are self-induced and desired whether the recommender caused them or not. This paper proposes that solutions to preference manipulation in recommender systems must take into account certain meta-preferences (preferences over another preference) in order to respect the autonomy of the user and not be manipulative.