We show that weights learned by AdamW can be understood as an exponential moving average (EMA) of recent updates. This gives critical insights for how to set the weight decay in AdamW, and how the weight decay should scale with model and dataset size. In particular, the key hyperparameter for an exponential moving average is the EMA timescale. Intuitively, the EMA timescale can be understood as the number of recent iterations the EMA averages over. Given a fixed learning rate, there is a one-to-one mapping from the EMA timescale to the usual weight decay hyperparameter. Thus, choosing an EMA timescale implicitly sets the weight decay. Importantly, there are natural guidelines for sensible values for the EMA timescale: we need to average over all datapoints, so the EMA timescale should not be (much) smaller than 1 epoch, and we need to forget early updates, so the EMA timescale should not be (much) bigger than the total number of training epochs. In our experiments, we find that optimal EMA timescales are consistent with these guidelines, as are the hyperparameters chosen in recent large-scale LLM pretraining runs (e.g.\ Llama 1+2 and Stable LM). Critically, these guidelines suggest that the optimal EMA timescale should not change (much) as we scale the model and dataset. That implies that as the dataset size increases, the optimal weight decay should fall. Moreover, as the model size increases, the optimal weight decay should also increase (if we follow the muP recommendation for scaling the learning rate).