Cross-domain few-shot relation extraction poses a great challenge for the existing few-shot learning methods and domain adaptation methods when the source domain and target domain have large discrepancies. This paper proposes a method by combining the idea of few-shot learning and domain adaptation to deal with this problem. In the proposed method, an encoder, learned by optimizing a representation loss and an adversarial loss, is used to extract the relation of sentences in the source and target domain. The representation loss, including a cross-entropy loss and a contrastive loss, makes the encoder extract the relation of the source domain and keep the geometric structure of the classes in the source domain. And the adversarial loss is used to merge the source domain and target domain. The experimental results on the benchmark FewRel dataset demonstrate that the proposed method can outperform some state-of-the-art methods.